Pastor Marvin Sapp asked this relationship question on Facebook, and I quote, “What constitutes “CHEATING?” Is it just sex from a biblical perspective or more?”
The first thing cognizance was dishonesty. The moment a person IS dishonest, about anything and everything they are dishonest about, is the moment they have begun the journey of cheating. Why are people dishonest or why do they cheat? They do it because they are selfish individuals. They are hoarders of greed. SELAH! This thing called “cheating” BEcomes their lifestyle and it is all entrenched in selfishness [it’s all about their desires, interests, rules and regulations, and how they want to attain them]. When they consistently cheat they BEcome cheaters; when they consistently lie, they BEcome liars; when they consistently deceive, they BEcome deceivers. Cheaters are habitual Svengalis’ (charmers, manipulators), and they have no good purpose. As it is, there is no good purpose in cheating.
Can you imagine Yeshua the Christ cheating the cross, or cheating the woman at the well? Can you imagine YAH cheating His creation, saying, “All this I’ve created is good, I’ll make something bad?” Or better yet, can you imagine YAH cheating Who He was? Love! Love can’t and won’t cheat on or against itself, because love is not selfish. There are elements of love that doesn’t seek its own and it thinks no evil. And, without love you will undoubtedly BEcome a cheater; selfish in all your ways, a narcissistic. That’s right, cheating leads to personality disorders.
The lifestyle of cheating makes a person think they are worth the things they are dishonest about. To mention, cheaters are exceedingly unstable; so unstable that they cheat on themselves. SELAH! Now, that’s a problem when you cheat on yourself and then try to convince yourself that you didn’t. What is there to gain while losing your soul? Cheaters [charlatans, tricksters, double-dealers, and FAITHLESS people] seek to BE grand and will do whatever is necessary to acquire that grandiose posture through lies, white lies, black lies, and, well, extra lies. They pursue all they desire from multiple sources, resources, and people.
Thus, cheating is far more than, and is not rooted in or limited to, sex from a biblical perspective. Cheating is foundational in the mind before it is manifested through the gates of the penis, vagina, eyes, ears, and hands.
© 2012 Angela M. Smith