What Will Make A Man Choose You As His Wife?

Jan29

Thinking Out Loud: A man attuned to himself will immediately recognize the missing part of him when he beholds me. He will simply choose me to be his wife, and I accept him as my husband, because we KNOW that the parts rightly fit. He will know that I am the help meet that was in him, but is now beside him; he will know me and declare that I am the heart of his heart, the soul of his soul, the love of his love. What he doesn’t have, I have preserved for him – – surely he will not reject himself (me) for he is a wise man. I am he…he is me…we are one. Selah!

Joint to joint and vein to vein we are a faultless ensemble.

He will choose me because I represent myself well in the city; my name is respected among the leaders, and the poor call on me for guidance. His name is safe and sound in my mouth, at home, and in the community. He will choose me because I am a business woman and will manage the wealth of his hands with superior diligence; because I will teach his children to honor him.

He will choose me because he has found himself! Selah!
© 2009 Angela M. Smith

A Prayer from The Watchman Wife

Nov29

I am praying, fasting, and meditating for marriages and relationships between A man and A woman. Relationships that are leading to marriages and marriages that are of the LORD; same sex marriages are not of the Most High Yah our LORD. And, I am not praying for boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, or this is my man or my woman relationships where you are fornicating and one or the other have hurt your feelings. If you are courting under accountability of someone who is spiritually reputable in the Holy Ghost, this is for you. ALLELUIA!

Father Elohim, whenever we communicate with our spouse, help us to uphold the priority of our marriage; allowing no other relationship to weaken ours. LET the word “divorce” never be formed on our tongue and never pronounced with our lips. LET it never be considered as a viable option, knowing that it strikes terror in the heart, fear and anger in the mind, and anxiety to our souls. And, it grieves Your Holy heart.

LET US always, in all of our conversations, uphold the oneness of our marriage, understanding that what affects one always affects the other. LET US allow open and honest communication, encourage vulnerability and authenticity. LET US never be guilty of breaking each other’s spirit. ALLELUIA! Rather, may we affirm and strengthen one another so that TOGETHER we can endure any weakness, any failure and not lose hope.

Father Elohim, help us to sharpen our communication skills. Teach us to communicate with our eyes-to convey our delight in the each other’s presence, to say, “I love you,” to LET our loved one know even in a crowded room, “You’re special to me.” Remind us to give each other the gift of our full attention when we talk.

Teach us to respond to what is said so that our mate knows he or she is being heard. Help us to keep a confidence, to build a “wall of trust” so that we are free to share all that is in our hearts. And as we listen, LORD, help us to avoid giving quick or pat answers. Help us to listen patiently. Remind us that even though our loved one does not always want advice we are bound to impart wisdom from the Holy Spirit. Although sometimes we just want to be heard; to say it, and to get it off our chest, LET US be receptive to receiving what we need and not just getting what we want.

In the name Jesus, Son of God, name we pray. Amen.

LOVE Is Not A Feeling!

Nov7

“Love is not a feeling! Those who think that it is will also express selfishness. These are ‘two’ of many reasons why many marriages and relationships are failing i.e. selfishness and living like love is an emotion. Some BElieve that if you ‘are not feeling’ all giddy and bubbly that love is not alive. They have associated “I’m angry” with “I don’t love you.” Or, “You’ve pissed me off” has BEcome equivalent to “You don’t love me.” Or, “What you said hurt my feelings” has BEcome akin to “We just don’t love each other anymore.”

This is the world’s way of thinking and it is indisputably BOGUS. Love is not a feeling/emotion i.e. mad, angry, sad, blah, and frustrated. However, those emotions are produced by the LACK of love alive. Love is about patience, enduring, bearing, hoping, THINKING NO evil; it is kind and mature; it does not keep a tally of “this is what you did so that’s why I did what I did.”

When you BEcome your emotions, you enslave love. That is such an abject attitude. When you BEcome love, you have power over your emotions. Consequently, your feelings are managed by the higher court and judgment of what rules – YAH’s Love” (Smith, Angela M. 2012)!

© August 30, 2012, Angela M. Smith

Receiving God’s Favor

Sep30

For a few weeks now, the Holy Spirit has been teaching me about favor and I’ve been listening and hearing. Many people have latched on to the idiom that “favour ain’t fair”. Usually, they assert it as favour because they don’t deserve it or when they receive something they didn’t expect to receive, yet it was something that was due to them, but they didn’t know it was due to them. Or, it is favour when they get a measure of help to take care of an immediate, urgent, need or situation. All too often, this immediate urgent need comes and goes. Then, it comes around again to BE another immediate urgent need and they pray once more for favour or for a blessing. SELAH!

Whereas, the Holy Spirit is teaching me that FAVOUR IS FAIR BEcause the LORD Who gave (gives) favour is a fair, a just, God. Favour is given BEcause Love is with us and Love shows us mercy, and Love is well-grounded. Favour isn’t given BEcause of need and desire. What I have learned is that not only is favour fair, is from a fair, just, God, it is also right. There is nothing wrong about it; it is balanced. Do we all deserve what is just and right? Yes. Yes we do. SELAH!

Favour is not only just and right; it is a gift from the LORD God. This gift will always come through the hand and heart of people who are in harmony with the LORD; people who are walking in the spirit realm. And, you don’t have to prove anything to these people who are walking with the LORD. You owe them nothing for “the gift” from God. SELAH! They obeyed the LORD BEcause they love His way and His people. Truly, favour is categorically free and clear. It doesn’t place people in debt, and it borrows not from anyone to BE what it is to and for someone else.

Even so, Romans 11:29 declare that the favour (gifts) and calling of God is immutable. However, many will reject “the gifts of and from God” BEcause they are persuaded that through their own lust, greed, and selfishness they can pay for what they need and want. Favour from God, exceeding abundantly above all that you can ask or think of, does what your money cannot do.

As a matter of truth, we can’t even afford favour. It is irrevocably ‘gifted’ to us. That’s how influential, just, and right favour is.

© September 28, 2013 Angela M. Smith

Petite Gestures of Love Are Mighty in Value

Sep10

“It’s amazing that so many of us miss out on the “good” that is within any given day because we zone in on the bad that goes on in our own minds.  Today, I CHOOSE not to make it a good day but to ENJOY the day because it is good.  SELAH.  On yesterday, I had to discipline my lad for slighting his brother.  He had to repent and ask for forgiveness, and the other had to forgive.  This was a requirement BEfore we laid down to sleep.  So, then last night, my Josh worked and this morning I told him he had to put gas in the car.  As it is, I am teaching him that he will never LET his family have to ask him to put gas in the car.  It is his responsibility as the head of his household to provide; to BE sure that his family has whatever they need; to not ever LET his wife travel on empty or half full.  SELAH.  Now, although he is not the head of this household the training is in order. 

Afterwards, I dropped them off to school and the rain begin to pour heavily.  Tempted to turn around and go home, I stayed with my course of action and headed to Frankfort as scheduled.  After my appointment, I went to “The Zachary Confections Candy Store.”  UMMM delish!  You can really get chunky (or chunkier) visiting that place.  They have all sorts of candy…EVERYWHERE!  The clerk told me to help myself and I did just that.  I bought two boxes of pecan perks, a box of thin mints, and a box of vanilla yogurt pretzels.  I was thinking, “Geezzz, Ang!  You don’t need all of this!”  However, Pure Divine Love said, “Show your sons that although you had to discipline them, you also have to love them.”  All too often, when we discipline our children it can lead them to “thinking” that love is not involved.  Quite the reverse, love is the foundation of chastening.

On my ride home, I was so excited about showing my lads that they are loved.  Instead of going straight home, I went to the school.   As I asked the secretary to call them to the office, I, very gaily, told her I was bringing my sons gifts.   She couldn’t stop blushing.  I heard her laugh for the very first time in the three years that I’ve known her.  It was…WOW…pleasant to see her happy heart on her face.  My Jordan came in first and I hugged him, patted him on his butt like I always do, and said, “I love you son.  Enjoy your chocolate, share it with your teacher and friends and HAVE a good day.”  To have means to possess, to own this day, a good day.  He said, “FOR ME?” And my answer was, “YEP!”  To see my young lad smiling and owning the hallway he walked knowing that his mother loves him made my heart leap with joy.

Then, my Josue’ came in and I hugged him, and patted his butt and he says, “Not the butt MOM!”  I chuckled and said, “I love you son!  Enjoy your chocolate and HAVE a good day.”  Then Josh points to his pocket and I say, “Call you?”  He says, “Text me!”  LOL!  Like dude, we are talking right now why I need to text you?  He wanted to talk more about my day so I texted him when I got in the car and he sends me a text back encouraging me and thanking me for his box of chocolates.  OMGOSH!  That warmed my soul.  Anyways, when I turned around the secretary was smiling so hard with glee.  As I exited the office, I greeted her again and blessed her day. 

It is not very often that parents come to the school to love on their children.  Majority of the time they come to the school because there is a snag in behavior, grades, or other actions.  And on another hand, many children won’t and don’t even see their parents at home.  SELAH!  But I, I will drive, and don’t mind driving, out there just to give them a hug or I will call the school to speak with them to simply say, “Mommy loves you today and I’m proud of you.  Continue to do well!” 

Parents, I endorse these petite gestures of love for they are mighty in value for the making of role model husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, employees and employers, students and teachers, friends and enemies.  SELAH!  I encourage you to teach your sons and daughters how to BE well rounded in their life by you being well rounded in yours, and by showing them all the elements of Pure Divine Love.  Today, I CHOOSE not to make it a good day but to ENJOY the day because it is good.  SELAH.

© September 10, 2014 Angela M. Smith

The Believing Children

Sep10

I’d not been on a cruise in a very long time and was excited to experience the seas again. Embarkation was stress-free as I was the last one to check in and receive my cabin keys. The receptionist, who was the primary face of the cruise ship, was polite and paid attention to the details of anxiety I displayed. Even though I told her twice, “Don’t say my cabin number out loud,” I’m certain I only needed to note it once as she handed me the key.

Then, she tells me that the entertainment for the evening was Tasha Cobbs and how all the passengers are enjoying her performance. As a live-and-die hard music fanatic, I chose another excursion. Around the bend of arcades and other gaming machines, I heard children tête-à-tête and a man inspiring them. I peeked around the wall and there the children were, on the stage grasping a lesson on relationships. The parents and other passengers were in the audience.

When the teacher looked at me, I noticed that his right pupil was black and his left pupil was blue. As I slowly sat down, I watched the teacher…watching me. Then, he took a couple, stranger passengers, and seated them at the foot of the stage. They were angry people, looking like they were on a forced adventure. Not only were they angry, they unswervingly rejected the truth.

As I affirmed the teachings of this teacher, the aggravated lady next to me stood up with a fiery rage and exclaimed, “YOU’RE A LIAR!” I could see her choleric expression from my peripheral vision. Without agitation, I said to her, “He’s in the scriptures. What he’s saying is in the Holy Scriptures!”

What about the children? They had intently observed the behavior of the parents and the couple. I was thinking that, perhaps, they were thinking, “And therefore, grown-ups are failing in their relationships. They do not believe the teachings of the teacher.” SELAH!

When I woke up, I was gently reminded of Luke 18:15-17. As well as Matthew 18:3-6, KJV: verily I say unto you, except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Whosoever, therefore, shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me. But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. Selah.

© September 10, 2017 Angela M. Smith

Drive-By God Givers

Sep6

Drive-by: an action done in a cursory manner.

While making an investment transaction today, the gentleman asked me, ‘How did you hear about us?’

I explained to him that I was on my way to Indianapolis to patron another vendor and took a detour to consider, yet, another vendor. On my way to my original destination, I drove-by their establishment and inspected every asset they had. I proceeded to tell him that after consulting with two well-respected individuals, this was the place I had to make my transaction.

He yelled across the hallway, “Hey Moses, DRIVE-BY!” Moses wasn’t surprised, as he has gotten used to drive-bys. They explained that they do not spend a great amount of funds in advertising, but something is drawing people to them.

As I considered this conversation, the Holy Spirit has affirmed that “Drive-by Givers” are headed in my direction. They are sent by YAH! I don’t have to advertise my need or even look like I have a need. Drive-by Givers do what they do BEcause THEY have a DESIRE to do something. And, they desire to do it QUICK and in a HURRY. SELAH.

Quick and in a hurry isn’t always about rushing and not having a well-thought out action. For this is true: most, if not all, drive-by shootings are strategically planned. So shall it BE with these Drive-by Givers unto me. They have a strategic plan to give to me QUICK and in a HURRY! And, they will know I Am the one when they pass by, BEcause they are also God’s Givers. SELAH!

(C) July 19, 2017 Angela M. Smith

When Mentoring in Action Meets Mentoring in Silence

Jan16

Today, I recalled how many years ago there were scores of things happening in the lives of those I counsel/mentor that I was at the precipice of disengaging myself from what I AM called and chosen to do.

I felt like TOO MUCH was going on: parenting my lads, who were bullied and experiencing peer pressure, to other mothers facing life-and-death situations, to being called a snitch for advocating for the safety of an entire school community – I needed a break. So, I took that break; a moment to regroup; a moment to let the Holy Spirit inhale and exhale through me; a moment to quiet myself and be revived, to finish what I started.

During this quiet time, I realized that as mentors, sometimes we tend to become excessively involved to the measure that our involvement turns into ineffectiveness. Although this ineffectiveness does not always appear unproductive to the mentee, we mentors see it. Thus, we must have moments of silence. Not to signify that we lack interest and don’t care, but to keep productivity for the cause in a rewarding condition. When embracing this time of silence, we should not retreat without notice. They are already fragile, most of the time, and to walk away without explanation can further their insecurities.

My method of mentoring in silence includes not availing myself of F2F (face-to-face) or via telephone interaction but via email or social media, on occasion. These restrictions allowed me to maintain control of my silent space and maintain a measure of effectiveness. And, again, we all need silence: not to reject but to recuperate.

I was just now gently reminded how Jesus, during the time of betrayal by one of His mentees (disciples), took time to go to a particular place and pray. He said to His disciples, “Sit HERE while I go and pray YONDER. And then, Jesus went a little FARTHER, fell on His face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless, not as I will, but as thou wilt” (Matthew 26:36,39, KJV). The HERE, YONDER, and FARTHER were measures of separation between them (His mentees [disciples]) and Him while He prayed. This act of separation was a time to weep and release: a time to come to terms with what is required of the journey ahead: a time of preparation to finish what He started.

As Jesus was on that day, so are many of us mentors. SELAH! Let us continue to use our silent space to restore and equip us to finish what we’ve been called and chosen to accomplish.

©October 28, 2013, Angela M. Smith (Nataph)

When People Are Consistent

May22

MY MORNING MEDITATION May 22, 2016: “At midnight, I begin to LET my faith minister to me as I thoughtfully revisited my activities over the last 7 days and 7 hours. My goal was to make sure that I had not neglected to commune with The Comforter as I desired. So, I begin to give thanks and invoke a benediction up on myself.

Moments BEfore this, while I was closing out business matters, personal matters, family matters, and shutting down from movie time, snack time, and bath time, the subtle presence of uncertainty started knocking on the door of my heart. Immediately, I recognized its thump and decided that since I know how uncertain uncertainty is there really isn’t a just cause for me to LET it LIVE tonight.

Resting in my declaration that I have no thing to worry about and don’t need to create something to worry about, I laid me down to sleep. For the LORD IS my Shepherd, I shall not want. At the very moment that I was slipping into sleep, these words startled me,

“When people are consistent!”

Without thought or hesitation, I got right up and said, “Yes LORD!” I knew that this was the balance to my fellowship with the LORD. I had said my piece, and He now says His peace,

“When people are consistent!”

Consistent is equivalent to stedfast, which means to BE sure, unwavering, settled, strong and firm; BE faithful and certain. The scriptures instruct us to BE ye consistent…forasmuch as you know that your labour is not in vain (1 Corinthians 15:58).

I urge us all to BE consistent. Make a decree over every dominion of your life that all of you will to BE sure, unwavering, settled and certain BEfore YAH our Creator. When you are consistent in giving, your receiving will BE of the same measure. And when you are consistent in your faith, favour IN your life will BE your benediction” (Smith, Angela M. 2016).

Did You Ask?

Oct4

On September 23, 2021, a dear friend of mine asked me to be praying with him regarding an employment opportunity that he was interested in and very much qualified to perform. After he expressed why he wanted this position, I immediately began to meditate on his desire.  

On the THIRD DAY, September 26, 2021, I sent him a prayer that I had uttered in the ears of Abba, Father. Part of that prayer reiterated what The Scriptures we believe in proclaims, and that is John 14:13-14; 16:23-24, “…and whatsoever ye shall ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If ye shall ASK ANYTHING in my name, I will do it; whatsoever ye shall ask the Father in my name, He will give it to you; ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.”  

That same THIRD DAY, my client called, and I shared with her about us, the kingdom citizens of God, being Genesis 1:26. I mentioned how we (quite a few of us) walk in the dominion here-and-there and every-now-and-then, but not consistently. How we (again, quite a few of us) have not disciplined ourselves to have what “LET Us” created us to have – and that is DOMINION! While I was speaking to her, I said to myself and then told her, “You know I’ve been praying for and with a friend about his employment desire, and I’m thinking, well LORD – I need a job, period.”  

Suddenly, the Holy Spirit whispered, “Did you ask?”

Very reflective, I stopped talking and told the truth. Yeah! I had not asked!  

It wasn’t that I didn’t want to ask for myself or that I wasn’t concerned enough to ask for what I needed. I was just fully committed to and focused on the moment of praying for and asking for my friend. Standing in agreement with his request, being Matthew 18:18-19, was important to me. This kind of commitment to agree in faith without wavering, always, and I do mean ALWAYS, yields a YES!  

On Monday, September 27, 2021, I had THREE phone interviews. Those three phone interviews turned into three scheduled face-to-face interviews. On Tuesday, September 28, 2021, I arrived at my first interview on time. However, I could not enter the building. So, I called two people to let them know the door was locked and was eventually let in. The salary they offered was considerable for someone without my experience. It didn’t even meet my exit salary from my previous job, and the start date was in late November. When I returned home, I called the second company that scheduled me for an interview and told them that I was declining their interview because I had accepted another offer. To mention, I hadn’t had the third interview yet, but I knew it was the right fit for me. So, I ASKED of the LORD. I sure did! I asked the LORD, “May I have this position with this salary? I want this one, LORD?”  

And so, I left my ASK in the presence of the LORD.

On Wednesday, September 29, 2021, the THIRD DAY, I arrived 15 minutes early for my interview and was interviewed without delay. The greeting started with the interviewer, a man of Greek ethnicity, introducing himself. He said, “Angela, I prayed over EVERY resume, and there was A WORD that jumped from the pages of your resume. I told my staff to call you in for an interview and that I will not be interviewing anyone else.”  

God Almighty is some kind of mindful of me! Two days prior, September 27, 2021, this man of the LORD’s kingdom had already decided to hire me. The declaration was in the atmosphere ONE day after the Holy Spirit inquired of me, DID YOU ASK, which was ONE day before I even asked the LORD, MAY I HAVE! Selah!

So then, today, October 4, 2021 (five days after I received my YES for what I asked for), is a day of great grace – favor. I say this because I received a message from my friend, whom I prayed for every day, stating that he received his YES for what we were ASKING. ALLELUIA!

Although this is not the first time prayers have manifested for me, these past 11 days of faith created opportunities for my heaven (earth) to experience God’s heaven (the Kingdom of God). This kind of living is intentional and requires patience to walk through “God’s Timing.”

With a heart of thanksgiving, I am encouraged to maintain my faith lifestyle and devotion to prayer. I scribbled all of this testimony to fill you up with hope and that your faith is multiplied inch by inch. Even so, a slight measure of increase is better than no increase.  

© 2021 Angela M. Smith (Nataph)