“I don’t believe I’d be a burden to him who marries me because he WILL COME well-equipped to repair and/or help repair the damage from the happenings of and in my life” (Smith, Angela M 2011). SELAH!

This is realistic and exceedingly possible.  It is not a tremendous pressure for a man who IS well-equipped to repair or help repair the damage from the happenings of life.  The question that was asked of me was, and I quote, “Who is repairing you at this point? What if this man never appears, do you remain broken?”  My response, “He wouldn’t be repairing ME; he’d BE well-equipped to repair the damage from the HAPPENINGS in my life.  I [ME] am already repaired by the indwelling Holy Spirit.  So, whether he [my husband] appears or not I AM repaired. And no, we should not remain broken.  To BE that [broken] is a choice, and an Eshet Chayil (woman of virtue) never remains broken.  Perhaps we should discover what happenings that happened that he is well-equipped to repair?

I didn’t expect the woman who asked the question to tell me this, and I quote, “It doesn’t matter that I understand as long as God does.  Cast all your cares on GOD for he cares for you.  There are so many frustrated single Christian females.  It’s naive to think that a man can repair past damage that has been done to someone God created.”

Thus, I say to her “No dear, it’s not naive to think that a man can repair past damage that has been done to someone God created.  There are plenty things that man can fix/repair BEcause YAH has equipped him to fix them.  When we abide in Him and He abides in us, He has accordingly empowered us to BE repairers of the breach through Him.  I do agree that there are so many frustrated single Christian females.  However, I BE thankful that I’m not one of them BEcause (1) I’m not frustrated, (2) I’m not single, and (3) I’m not a Christian.  I AM peaceful, I AM unmarried, and I AM a BEliever of the Word of YAH.  Perception is the key and understanding is even more critical.  This is why I say, again, it’s not about FIXING or REPAIRING a person, but rather fixing or repairing a HAPPENING.  SELAH!

Proverbs 4:7 (KJV) ~ Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and WITH ALL thy getting get understanding.

ALL THINGS are possible to him who BElieves!  It is pivotal that we BEcome BElievers of the scriptures.  Yeshua said it Himself in Mark 9:23 (KJV) “Jesus said unto him, If thou canst BElieve, ALL THINGS ARE possible to him that BElieveth.”  When we BE-come this Word of YAH that we read and study, when it BE-comes our lifestyle, we will begin to see that NO THING IS impossible or unrealistic for us to obtain.  NO THING! THINKING OUT LOUD: Genesis 11:6 (KJV) And the LORD said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now NOTHING WILL BE restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.  SELAH!

Finally, there was a man of wisdom who had the courage to ask a question that will bring forth sum total understanding about my quote.  He asked, “What happening?”  I replied, “AWW very good question.  I was hoping someone would ask BEcause asking for clarity brings sum total understanding to what is being said.

Example: a spouse whose credit is a mess because the other spouse had taken out loans [unaware to the other spouse] and had both names on the account; or a spouse whose credit score is not 850 but 450 not due to recklessness but due to happenings i.e. job loss, income loss, foreclosure, eviction, more bills less income, robbing Peter to pay Paul and all is still insufficient; absent parent won’t support; depression and oppression is alive BEcause there isn’t enough income to satisfy the needs [not the wants]; education, student loans, interview after interview for years and still no career to compliment your degree; clients stiffed you in your legitimate business dealings and you’ve not recouped your fees for services rendered, one season of success and three seasons of stress etc…

I know people [male and female] who have experienced some of these happenings.  I work with them every single day and get phone calls all hours of the night.  Not to mention, I’ve experienced one or two of those things I’ve listed above…..AND more!

Him (my husband) coming to me WELL-EQUIPPED means there is no thing [no happenings, no event] that I have experienced/or will BE experiencing will BE a burden to him.  The only way that I can BE a burden is if he is not well-equipped and well-abled to BE what he is called to BE.

All those things I’ve mentioned can be fixed and or repaired.  Just as there were EVENTS that caused them to happen, there are also EVENTS that will cause them to be fixed and or repaired. Sometimes, we all need help in repairing the damage from the happenings of life.  And, I furthermore consider that sometimes, just sometimes, the help that comes don’t even need our help.  They will just REPAIR the damage BEcause, again, they are WELL-EQUIPPED to do that.

So ladies, when he comes and BE who he is [well-equipped, well-endowed, FULLY ABLE, to repair; to make it right; to put things in order; to BE the head of the wife; to relieve the stress because of the lack; to make the way light], just LET HIM BE who he is.  LET HIM DO what he does! You will not BE a burden, a tremendous troublesome, to him.  For it will BE his pleasure to show you grace and for you to experience his love and compassion.  SELAH!  This I know to BE truth and it is coming to me soon!”

© August 9, 2011 (Angela M. Smith)